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Open-Ended Dialogue

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During open-ended dialogue you have the opportunity to:

  •   Practice using the communication tool of dialogue without interruption.
  •   Explore each other’s feelings.
  •   Get to know your spouse in a deep and intimate way.

The Team Couples are available in the conference room to answer questions, or if you reach an impasse or want help.

Instructions:

1. After this talk, dialogue for about 10 minutes on the love letters you just wrote. 2. Thenselectanewquestion.

  1. Separate to write – try different sides of the room, or one of you in the bathroom, etc.
  2. Then come together to exchange, dialogue, and select a new question.

Some ideas for selecting questions: Feelings you began sharing today but did not finish. Topics from today’s handouts. Try taking turns choosing questions.

WEDS

WRITE, EXCHANGE, DIALOGUE, SELECT Write a love letter to my spouse:

  • Pray before writing. Focus on spouse.
  • Write for 10 minutes.
  • Begin with a loving greeting and a most endearing quality. End with loving words.
  • Very briefly answer the question. Use most of my letter to write my feelings.
  • Share feelings honestly and lovingly, so my mate will feel what I am feeling.Exchange our love letters:
  • Sit rather than lie down.
  • Pray together. Exchange letters with non-verbal affection.
  • Receive my spouse’s letter and feelings lovingly.
  • Read the letter twice, silently. Ignore grammar and spelling errors.Dialogue on our feelings:
  • To begin, each spouse tells how I feel after reading your love letter.
  • Choose one strong feeling for our dialogue, from any one of 4 key sources:
    1. My love letter
    2. My spouse’s love letter
    3. My “now” feelings in response to my spouse’s love letter
    4. My spouse’s “now” feelings in response to my love letter
  • Dialogue only on that feeling for 10 minutes. Watch for and use non-verbal messages.
  • Goal of dialogue is unity: to reach oneness of feeling.

Select our question for our next dialogue.